Friday, December 7, 2012

Prince Charming Cleverly Disguised


Cinderella does not reside here.  There is no prince charming as promised by society and the lady in waiting left years ago.  It's funny how the fairy tales we learn as children echo in our hearts as we grow into adults.  At least for me, I waited for my prince to arrive and whisk me away to paradise so I too could live happily ever after, just like Cinderella.

It's bullshit.  I refuse to teach my girls about prince charming because the only rescue they can count is their faith, their heart and their mind.  The fairy tale Disney invented is a hoax and the quicker they learn that, the better off they will be.

I know this is rather cynical, but the truth is what it is.  I'm an optimist, a hopeless romantic who believes that good will always triumph and that man has good intentions. Of course we run into a few bad apples along the way, but look on the bright side . . .

When I was 21, I met prince harming who, through his craftiness, convinced me that paradise with him was always around the next corner.  That life would ease up as long as I had faith in him and if I did my due diligence, if I was a good girl - I would have him and the world.

It's rather silly, but I believe in the big picture.  I hope for the final outcome to be good, full of justice and exactly as we plan, but that wasn't the case in this story.  Well . . . that's not entirely true; there is an awesome outcome, but getting to the best took getting through the worse.

As I said, I met prince harming who beguiled me with his "wisdom."  Eighteen years ahead of me sure made him seem god-like.  Fresh out of college with a passion for knowledge, he seemed like the king of all kings.  My parents were not impressed but I was too eager to discover this mysterious man and ignored the ominous signs along the way.

And how he captured my attention was a classic con-man move.  He played sympathetic to my childhood trauma; a pious saint ever ready to help.  In my subconscious mind, the place where Cinderella dwelled, I instinctively gravitated towards this man with the hopes of being rescued.  The classic story playing it's part, instilled in me since I first heard and saw the heroine tale of prince charming rescuing the damsel in distress.

Confiding my fears, hopes and dreams, this man was gathering intel; how could he use this to ensare me.  The defining moment, the critical moment of capture came when I stood in his video store after hours and he posed a seemingly innocent question, "Who are you?"  I was baffled.  No one ever asked me that question and I hardly knew the answer.

Every answer I gave and every utterance was rejected; I was on the verge of tears while he stood so valiantly coy.  Freshly educated, taught to give a quick answer and open to any debate - this man had me stupefied.  How could he dumbfound me?  How could he confound the wise?  Yes, I was slightly arrogant but I used it to ward away penetrating questions that would delve into the recesses of the pain I carried.

I assume he immediately knew that very moment he had me in the palm of his hands.  A naive girl who believed in fairy tale endings, who desperately wanted to be Cinderella.  Don't all girls want a strong man, a handsome and daring man to rescue them from the depths of pain and misery?  I just wanted someone to right the wrongs and tell me I was loved.

We stood there in the dim lit video store . . . the embarrassment of not knowing who I was washed over my body and I wanted to cry; to curl up and simply cry.  And with his calm demeanor and look of satisfaction he said, "I know who you are."